When going to a wedding, something I really hate is when I am asked to give money rather than a gift. According to the Guardian, many couples are using poetry to ask guests to give money rather than gifts.
Furthermore, according to the Guardian, it seems many guests are happy with giving money: “Plenty of guests prefer to give cash, as it is less time-consuming and they know their gift is something the bride and groom will find useful.”
I am against giving money at a wedding mainly because I have heard many stories of couples and families who try to make a profit from a wedding. When the expectation is that each guest will bring a certain amount of money (e.g. $200), there are many couples who will try to provide cheap catering, cheap band, etc in order to keep costs low and therefore make a profit from the wedding!
In fact, coming from an Asian background, I was encouraged to marry a girl because, according to one of my aunts, the wedding would make me rich because guests would give me gifts like new cars. (I declined the offer to marry not because of the profit I would have made from the wedding but because the girl provided was quite annoying. I will talk about this in more detail in another blog post.)
The best way to prevent this sort of scam from happening is to give gifts at weddings. Gifts can certainly be sold, but most products will lose value if sold as people prefer to buy products from reputable retailers. Furthermore, most people are too lazy to sell gifts.
As a vegan, I like I give a gift that promotes the vegan lifestyle, and the perfect gift for that is e.g. a blender. A blender will encourage the married couple to blend green smoothies for themselves, which will make them purchase kale, spinach, etc for the rest of their lives. (Of course, they could put yoghurt and dairy milk into the smoothie as well.) Many other vegan products can be purchased, e.g. non-leather clothing.